Emails, posts on Facebook, tweets, texts and even comments made on social media are often used as evidence in court.   The way you communicate during your divorce can make or break your case.   Here are a few ground rules to help:

1. Don’t post comments about your divorce on any social media site.  There is no exception to this rule.  Even if your friends mention the divorce and are being supportive, your comments may be used against you in court.  Don’t do it.

2.    Use email instead of text when communicating in writing with your spouse.  Text messages are designed to be short and to the point.  When you are going through a divorce, tensions are high and words are often misinterpreted.   An email that begins with “Dear ____”, that includes the word “Please” and that ends with “Thank you” will always be perceived more favorably than a one sentence directive.

3. Don’t post pictures of you and your new friend on any social media site and do not post photos of your child.  While you may be happy to have found a new friend and may be eager to share your new life, it is advisable to wait until tensions have subsided and the case is resolved to do so.

Remember, the goal is to get through the divorce process with as few added complications as possible.